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I heard the news today, oh boy...

My cousin George has died. Mum called me with the news -- I can't take it in. He was 42.

When we were little, my mother's sisters, their husbands and children, lived very close to us. Later, they both moved away taking their families with them, but for the first ten or so years of our life, my sister and I always had our cousins around. There were ten of us altogether, eight of us really close...now one has left our happy family circle for good.

Tjop, as we called him, was more of a younger brother than a cousin. He and I got along very well; we shared a love of learning, of history and archaeology, and music -- it was Tjop who taught me how to play the guitar (well, only the one song actually, Deep Purple's Smoke On The Water). We didn't see each other all that often, but we kept in touch through the occasional postcard and phone call...Only a few weeks ago, Mum ran into him, and later related that he had expressed his regret that he hadn't seen more of us lately. I instantly resolved to call him up and make plans for a reunion...then I got caught up in the dailies and never made that call.

I wish I'd made that call. At least, I could have spoken with him one last time. I could have told him I loved him...though I probably wouldn't have. It was understood, though...or so I believe.

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gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 09:45 pm (UTC)
Thank you. It's such a strange realisation that death has come to claim one of our own generation...he was the next to youngest of us all.
laura_isaac
Dec. 11th, 2006 09:10 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry hun :( *huge hugs*
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 09:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you. *hugs back*
xionin
Dec. 11th, 2006 09:24 pm (UTC)
oh sweetie, i'm so sorry. *hug*
meko00
Dec. 11th, 2006 09:36 pm (UTC)
Ah, I'm so sorry.
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herself_nyc
Dec. 11th, 2006 09:56 pm (UTC)
My condolences.
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:02 pm (UTC)
Thank you.
wackinessensues
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:09 pm (UTC)
Oh sweetie. This really just is a day isn't it?

*snuggles you hard*

I've lost two of my cousins in the last ten years or so, and have another that will be very. very lucky to make it through another, and it's just never easy, because so often we just don't get to see them nearly often enough.

*snuggles you again*
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:27 pm (UTC)
Thank you. Little did I know that when I offered you my condolences earlier, you'd be offering me yours soon after. I just can't get my head round it.

Sorry to hear about your cousin. I hope you will have the chance to see him/her again before it comes time to say goodbye.
pohewa
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:18 pm (UTC)
*hugs*
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:28 pm (UTC)
Thank you, sweetie.
spiralleds
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:29 pm (UTC)
My condolences. I'm quite sure your cousin understood you love him.
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:44 pm (UTC)
Thank you, and I'm sure he did. Wish I could have made it plainer though -- I don't know why.

He died unexpectedly. I hear he hadn't been feeling well for the last fortnight, but had put off seeking medical attention because he hadn't sorted out his insurance yet (the national health got scrapped last January, and everyone has had to go get individually insured since then). He probably didn't realise whatever ailed him was serious. Insured or not, no doctor or hospital would have withheld medical attention from him.
diachrony
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:38 pm (UTC)
I'm very sorry to hear this. ((hugs))
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 10:46 pm (UTC)
Thanks, and for the hugs.
minim_calibre
Dec. 11th, 2006 11:00 pm (UTC)
I am so very sorry.
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 11:09 pm (UTC)
I'm so very grateful for my LJ-friends leaving their condolences. It means a lot...thank you.
enigmaticblues
Dec. 11th, 2006 11:15 pm (UTC)
*hugs* I'm so sorry. I have cousins that I'm close to, and that would be horribly difficult.
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 11:21 pm (UTC)
Speaking from bitter if recent experience: yes, it is, in those moments when it stops being terribly unreal for a split instant.

Thank you for your kind words, and your hugs.
scatterheart
Dec. 11th, 2006 11:27 pm (UTC)
Oh hon, I'm so sorry! *hugs*
gamiila
Dec. 11th, 2006 11:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much.
bogwitch
Dec. 12th, 2006 12:12 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear that. ::hugs::
gamiila
Dec. 12th, 2006 06:06 am (UTC)
It's been a shock. Thanks for the hugs and condolences.
desdemonaspace
Dec. 12th, 2006 02:06 am (UTC)
Ach! I'm so sorry, sweetness.
gamiila
Dec. 12th, 2006 06:08 am (UTC)
For his sake, I hope there's an afterlife, and that he can be with his mother, who passed away two years ago.
chantal87
Dec. 12th, 2006 06:17 am (UTC)
I am so sorry.
gamiila
Dec. 12th, 2006 06:54 am (UTC)
Thank you.
josephine_64
Dec. 12th, 2006 08:01 am (UTC)
So sorry to hear your news. *hugs*
gamiila
Dec. 12th, 2006 01:58 pm (UTC)
Thank you for leaving a message - I appreciate it.
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