I mentioned a few weeks ago that my friend J. would soon be going to a BtVS-convention. Well, that convention was this weekend and she's just sent me her report. Main thing is, she had a great time. And she chatted with ASH and JM. And I would repeat everything she told me about it it but a) there's no time and b) have to ask if she's OK with that first!
But apparently, JM does not believe that Spike believed Buffy when she said she loved him, and only said "No, you don't" out of some sort of noble impulse.